(Note I have set with this post hidden for nearly three months. I didn't open post it at the time because I wanted to let myself cool off before posting and to also prevent some faculty at my sons school from happening across it and then making things worse for my son and the other students. Since then other things have happened so I am reposting it today with this note)
Recap: I teach/host/herd a group of young people between the ages of 5-14 in doing makers projects at my sons school. Many of the young people doing the projects are the kids you would normally find fitting comfortably in a local comic shop, playing D and D or doing a blog.
They are us 20 years ago ( ok me anyway). I was a member of the AV squad....I was also the president, treasurer and only member for a couple of years. It got me out of class a lot and that was why I did it. I was also picked on a lot. The more I was picked on the more Geeky things I did.
Jump forward 20 years to today. When I refer to our group it's always Makers Club. When the School Staff talk with me about it they also refer to it as Makers Club. During a trip down the hall this morning I heard a staff member talking about our group as the nerd crew. I was instantly pissed.
Here is the rub I have also heard the kids referred to as Geeklings. Now this didn't bother me then although on reflection I have begun to wonder if I should of been upset then as well. I personally tend to happily identify with being a geek although I have never bitten the head of a chicken. Geekiness is something I tend to celebrate.
But Nerd, nerd was the word people used in calling me names, insulting me, basically all the terrible parts of growing. Being overweight and large I wasn't bullied physically often and the few times I was a bear hug took care of the problem. But verbal assaults were the norm.
So the question for today is am I letting my own experience with life color my perception of the comment I overheard or is the other person continuing the bullying and abuse they performed as a teen. My other concern is that teachers and staff at the school should not be calling any of their students nerds or geeks even in the third person.
So to you dear reader and fellow geek am I letting my skin be to thin and projecting my past on to a new situation or is the this a symptom unconscious bullying on the parts of the adults?
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